A professional human being
Komlosi in his tent office
Guidance through a spiritual growth or just
another name for a therapy?
By Valerie Korinkova
January 28, 2003 | Human Being (species Homo sapiens), a bipedal
primate mammal that is anatomically related to the great apes but is
distinguished by a more highly developed brain, with a resultant
capacity for articulate speech and abstract reasoning, and by a
marked erectness of body carriage that frees the hands for use as
manipulative members. Humans occur in a number of freely
interbreeding... (Encyclopedia Britannica).
So everybody who thinks and
talks is a human being. But who would consider himself a
professional human being?
Alexander Komlosi does. He regards it as his
"calling." When he was born in the hospital, an old man came up to
him and told him he would become a professional human being. That is
what his mother, Dr. Olga Marlin, told him. "When I was older, I
remembered my 'calling' in a dream," recalls Komlosi.
Komlosi is quite a small person with dark hair
and blue eyes. But the smaller he is the more flexible and agile he
seems. When he was young he felt an internal pressure to prove
himself, especially if one thinks about how mean children can be by
teasing. So it might appear that he tries the make up for his height
like a Napoleon complex. As he is older now, he said "I might have
been motivated by it, but then I thought why does it have to an
issue? And I accepted it." He learned now that the best thing is to
deal with it through humor, "For example, if I meet a woman who is
tall, I flirt with her and she says, 'But I'm much taller than you',
than I say, 'You know, it's all the same lying down.'" He does not
really mince matters and loves women.
For the past four years he has been practicing
his professional human being in an office often held in a tent at a
festival. He mostly uses festivals because he has difficulties
finding a regular place. As part of his introductory session,
Komlosi speaks about his origin and asks the client whether he/she
is a human being and what one associates with it.
"He was sitting with crossed legs in a tent which
seemed like an Arabic tent," remembered Ilona Hejdova who visited
his office at the roof of the theatre Disk in 2001. She attended the
session with her Ex-boyfriend (to whom she always refers as
"Blbec"-Idiot) and thought it would be a theatre play since she knew
that her English teacher Komlosi is also an actor. Once being asked
by him Hejdova answered, "I associated the professional human being
with a perfect human being and I thought the office would help me to
become one, too." After the introductory session she got into an
argument with her Ex-boyfriend. Hejdova recalls that "all my anger
with him which build up during the time now exploded" as she felt
like at a psychologist's. It went so far that Komlosi had to stop
them, "You are not in a marriage counseling service." But she has to
admit that, "It was strange and I think it was not really the
intention of the session."
Komlosi's invitation to the
Marcy Arlin had a different experience. They
talked about when he became a human being and had a quick memory
flash to childhood. Komlosi asked, "When did you first realize that
you were a human being?" and Arlin had a quick memory flash to being
an infant. Komlosi took notes and Arlin wondered "What is he
writing? What will he do with this? Am I being spied on? What does
he think?" After the 15 minute session Arlin thinks, "Yes, this is
therapy." Komlosi explained that the first consultation is for free
and the subsequent require something. What? This might be a gift and
will be agreed upon mutually. And again the client is not sure what
Komlosi's intention is, nor what happens with other people, but
regards it as "A sweet little trip we took through my sense of being
human" and wants to thank the professional human being for "giving
me a chance to visit my memories."
Once he even had to deal with a "psychopathic
guy." This man in his late 40's kept approaching the tent and was
asked to stay away by Komlosi's producer. He left but came back,
walked into the middle of the session and "started yelling at me:
'What are you doing? Are you crazy?'" describes Komlosi. So he had
to calm him down by listening to him extremely intensely. According
to Komlosi, the man might have been so paranoid and suspicious
because he was afraid that the professional human being was trying
to brainwash the people like it used to be during communism.
"So what is it all about?" one might wonder. A
look at his visiting card gives more information: "Alexander Komlosi
Professional Human Being understanding - guidance."
to understand his clients and tries to guide them on their way to
their internal and spiritual growth. "It's like walking through a
forest and I'm walking with you and pointing out things you might
not have noticed," explains Komlosi. His initial idea was to guide
people who wanted to become human being. If they were already human
being, then it would be more about the understanding what it is for
each one. He just works with him/her. But, of course, don't expect a
"magical process, sari mari boom, now you are a human being."
Now Komlosi's idea shifted to taking notes from the sessions
to compile a research about the different perspective of the people.
He compares it to a teacher who is not only teaching but also
learning from his students. During the past four years he has
attended festivals he has had about 600 clients each 15 minutes.
According to him, "Some people see it as a joke, as a performance or
are not interested at all in the process."
According to Komlosi, the session could be
therapeutic, but "I am not a psychologist and this is not a
therapy." In a therapy, the psychologists do only rarely introduce
their own ideas, whereas he is interacting in the conversation and
reflecting what is being said. So a person cannot obtain a guidance
to acquire the characteristic from a human being, since, as Komlosi
says, "I don't define human being, the client does."
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